My name is Guadalupe. I help women who want to have healthier relationships with people around them. They want to feel free to be themselves without feeling afraid of being judged and rejected.
My clients struggle as you do. Despite being smart and persistent, and having people in their life they deeply care about, for them life is hard. When they first come through my doors, they crave deeper relationships. They feel bad about themselves and think they are not good enough. When they feel rejected, these women don’t know what to say during conversations. Rejection eclipses their voice. Self-criticism grows a little taller within. “Something is wrong with me.” they blamefully decide. High self-expectations and fear of making mistakes calls out self-criticism. They sometimes believe that no one likes them. Any arguments with loved ones are caused by thinking it’s my fault. They willingly forgive anyone for their particular wrongdoings. The issue is they will forgive everyone except themselves.
Many of my clients grow up in a dysfunctional family, they witness negative habits and irrational demands which seem wrong, but they love their family. It seems impossible to set boundaries. They can’t help prioritizing others’ needs before their own. It is frustrating to them, and it is exhausting.
Fear of rejection and judgment gets in the way. They want too many things in life, but they are not the kind of woman they want to be. Imagine these thoughts, “I am not good enough. I feel I am a failure in my own family. I have failed my family, friends, and/or partner.” Because of this self-blame, their confidence in their social life is tanking. They can be unmotivated and disinterested. They project, “Things will get worse.” and they avoid confrontations. Stuck seems final and they are held back from being authentic.
This is not a permanent state of mind. Like my clients, you deserve to be at peace with yourself, feel confident, and have healthier relationships that are not out of your reach. If you want to have the ability to enjoy life through its natural ups and downs, I’d love to help you get there. You don’t have to suffer. Contact me to learn more about how I can help. I offer Pasadena counseling in person.